Whenever the sexual abuse of women and girls at the hands of men becomes a topic, I always notice that a man conveniently mentions the sexual abuse of boys at the hands of women, implying that we as women ignore such acts. When men ask, "what about the women who sexually abuse boys," I always direct them right back to the menfolk. I swiftly direct them to the men who boast and brag about having sex with older women in their childhood. I direct them toward the dudes who purchase adult prostitutes to put on their sons, nephews and so on. I remind them of the movie "Sweetback's Revenge" where the movie began with an obvious adult woman having sexual intercourse with an obvious young boy. The truth is, far too many men see it as an accolade to have landed an adult woman in bed as a youngster.
Dear Menfolk,
Many of these messes, you all are going to have to clean up among yourselves. The trash you keep stepping on and tripping over came from your own backyards. Another issue is the fact that I don't think those of you who bring up sexual abuse at the hands of women are concerned in the least bit. You just throw it in for the sake of winning a debate. As women, there is an overall disgust that many of us feel at the notion of a young girl, even if that young girl is considered a legal adult, being with a much older man. My question is, when are more men going to show the same degree of consistent outrage rather than pride in such acts? Antwone Fisher was one of the most earnest depictions of sexual abuse of a male child at the hands of a woman that I've seen in cinema and it was actually depicted as a despicable act. It showed how traumatized he was, still having been a virgin in his adult years not simply because he decided to hold out. It was the reason he held out. He wasn't comfortable with the idea of intimacy with a woman as a backlash of him having been raped by an adult woman as a child.
Men are going to have to take more of an interest in the sexual abuse of young boys at the hands of women, the same way you take such an interest in it happening at the hands of another man or boy. Far too many of you seem to be more concerned with same sex sexual abuse of male children because in your minds, that's what makes men gay. Many of you all would rather have your male children sexually molested (because you don't view it that way) by a grown woman than to have a consensual and age appropriate relationship with another man. You even foolishly think that homosexuality is simultaneous with male on male child molestation although according to statistics, your average pedophile is indeed, a heterosexual. This isn't a bashing of men. Hopefully, you'll take it as enlightenment on your own degrees of tolerance and really ask yourself why you tolerate and even encourage such double standards. Now if you're just looking to win an argument, keep throwing up women sexually abusing boys. But if you truly and sincerely want the same judicial handling of women that you see of men, your REAL LIFE attitudes are going to have to change. Some of you will go as far as to kill the man who touches your male or female child, whereas you'll try to see if you can get next with the women who does the same to your boys.
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